Does your child ever say they don’t want to go to nursery school or kindergarten? Some people may be troubled or worried by their child’s reluctance to go. Why do children refuse to go to school? Let’s understand the reasons and think about how to deal with it appropriately.
Common behaviors children show when they don’t want to go to school
Common behaviors that children exhibit when refusing to go to nursery or preschool include:
Crying in disgust
The most common behavior when a child expresses their desire not to go is crying. They
may cry quietly or thrash around and cry loudly while getting ready in the morning, while trying to put on their shoes at the entrance, while waiting for the school bus, when they arrive at the entrance to the school, or when they are separated from their parents. Children cannot explain their feelings well in words, so they communicate their feelings by crying.
It just won’t work
Sometimes children refuse to move even when their guardians say “Let’s go” or take their hands . By refusing to move, such as by refusing to change clothes or put on shoes, they are expressing their feelings of “I don’t want to go.”
When he sees people dropping him off, he doesn’t want to go to school
They may show behavior such as “I don’t want to go” only to parents who they think can depend on them . They will obediently go to kindergarten when another parent takes them, but they will resist only to the parent who can depend on them.
Run and escape
Some children may run away from their guardians just when they think they have finally left the house . This puts them at high risk of being involved in a traffic accident, so it is important to be careful.
Possible reasons include not wanting to be separated from their parents or feeling very anxious.
There are several reasons why children may not want to go to kindergarten. Let’s take a look at them in detail.
I don’t want to leave my parents
For children, their guardians are important people who love and protect them. Being with their guardians allows children to spend their days feeling safe and secure. In particular, young children may feel anxious about being separated from their guardians who have always been with them since they were babies. Even if a child seems to have settled into the nursery school, they may
feel anxious about being separated from their guardians due to minor stresses.
I am worried about life at the nursery school.
Children who are so-called shy tend to feel anxious in places with a lot of people. Children who are sensitive to changes in their environment also feel stressed in an environment that is different from the comfort of home .
In many cases, children will get used to the people and environment over time, but there are individual differences in children’s development, personality, and characteristics. If they have difficulty getting used to the environment, they will start to dislike going to school.
I don’t get along with my friends
Some children in the preschool and older age group have friends they don’t get along with and hate going to kindergarten . This is because they have grown both physically and mentally. It is important for children
to compete with each other in a large group of people, but sometimes children don’t get along with each other. This is a situation where children hate going to kindergarten because of interpersonal relationships.
Afraid of adults outside of family
Some children feel pressured when they move from home to a nursery or kindergarten where there are many adults, where they can spend time with trusted guardians. It seems that just the fact that there are unfamiliar adults around can make them feel scared. Sensitive children can also feel scared by loud adult voices or movements.
I’m not feeling well
Children are not yet able to explain their physical condition well in words. They may not be able to communicate that they are not feeling well and may refuse to go to school. If your child usually goes out without any problems, but suddenly becomes unwilling to go, it may be that they are not feeling well .
I’m acting like a baby again
Some children may have younger brothers or sisters and act like babies again . They may be very worried that their guardians have lost their love for them, and find it difficult to leave them. They may
also feel dissatisfied, wondering why they have to go to kindergarten while their younger brothers and sisters can stay with their guardians.
What can parents do when their child refuses to go to school?
There are several reasons why children may not want to go to kindergarten. Let’s take a look at them in detail.
I don’t want to leave my parents
For children, their guardians are important people who love and protect them. Being with their guardians allows children to spend their days feeling safe and secure. In particular, young children may feel anxious about being separated from their guardians who have always been with them since they were babies. Even if a child seems to have settled into the nursery school, they may
feel anxious about being separated from their guardians due to minor stresses.
I am worried about life at the nursery school.
Children who are so-called shy tend to feel anxious in places with a lot of people. Children who are sensitive to changes in their environment also feel stressed in an environment that is different from the comfort of home .
In many cases, children will get used to the people and environment over time, but there are individual differences in children’s development, personality, and characteristics. If they have difficulty getting used to the environment, they will start to dislike going to school.
I don’t get along with my friends
Some children in the preschool and older age group have friends they don’t get along with and hate going to kindergarten . This is because they have grown both physically and mentally. It is important for children
to compete with each other in a large group of people, but sometimes children don’t get along with each other. This is a situation where children hate going to kindergarten because of interpersonal relationships.
Afraid of adults outside of family
Some children feel pressured when they move from home to a nursery or kindergarten where there are many adults, where they can spend time with trusted guardians. It seems that just the fact that there are unfamiliar adults around can make them feel scared. Sensitive children can also feel scared by loud adult voices or movements.
I’m not feeling well
Children are not yet able to explain their physical condition well in words. They may not be able to communicate that they are not feeling well and may refuse to go to school. If your child usually goes out without any problems, but suddenly becomes unwilling to go, it may be that they are not feeling well .
I’m acting like a baby again
Some children may have younger brothers or sisters and act like babies again . They may be very worried that their guardians have lost their love for them, and find it difficult to leave them. They may
also feel dissatisfied, wondering why they have to go to kindergarten while their younger brothers and sisters can stay with their guardians.
